Sunday, February 09, 2014

Lindsay Unplugged: Mourning the Loss of My Dad

Today marks one month since my dad passed away, and it may as well have been yesterday. Why is that? I pushed pause on life—I wanted to push stop, and someone came along and pressed play without telling me. I’m not ready, and everyone else is. 

At the funeral, I was sure we would all be in a terrible funk for weeks, months and even generations. We would wear black & white. Businesses would close and the Super Bowl would be cancelled. But that’s not the way it happened. Days—not weeks, not months, not generations—days after I lost my dad, the status quo returned. Did the status quo not see how many flower arrangements were at the funeral? How I've needed to do at least 5 speeches for all the services and tributes that people wanted to do for him? The world lost a great man. What was the rush of picking up where we left off? I wish I could mourn faster. I wish I approached loss at 1000 miles per hour. I wish I didn’t judge others who do. 

How excellent it must feel to blaze through the stages of grief at record-breaking speed: denial, anger, bargaining and then acceptance—one after the other. Bam, bam, bam. Surely I can do this, right? Me, Lindsay Coil, used to a fast-paced life, confident, passionate, always in the lead & in control, always thinking of solutions to problems, always someone who has answers (or will make sure gets answers) for urgencies & emergencies, always on top of things, very determined to make things work.. But no, this time was different. Instead of record-breaking recovery, I keep inching forward. Taking it one day at a time. 

Some days, I feel like slow and steady is the proper way to grieve. Other times, I’m desperate for a quick fix. Some nights, I would just cry... and cry some more with my heart hurting like crazy. In reality, I know that grief is as personal and unique as the individual who is grieving; there is no right way to get over the loss of someone you love. Still, it would feel nice not to be going through it alone. 

I have all these amazing memories with my dad that keep me laughing and crying at times. I know that I will never forget. I will always keep my daddy close to my heart like I do my mom. I long for others to tell me they do the same, that they still think of him and that these thoughts are uplifting, empowering, and joyful. I long to embrace healing. 

My family and friends who I have shared about my pain and my process remind me that I am not alone. Everyday I tell my dad that I love and miss him as I go through the book of memories that my lovely mother-in-law made for me. Everyday I am reminded that I have a husband who loves me and is always there for me. I have a few beautiful friends who have also lost both parents who truly feel and understand what I am going through. With this, I am reminded that I have a community of people who give me strength when I don't. 

Then I have a loving Father in heaven who has comforted me in so many ways and gave me strength in moments that I am weak. So I know my time of healing is coming. But I am not in a hurry. I am moving on at a different pace, taking it one day at a time.

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." Matthew 5:4

Link to the announcement - Wilfredo Bancairen

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Lindsay is Headed to Monterey

Packing & getting ready to leave for Monterey tomorrow to facilitate a DISC workshop. #discworkshop #monterey #excited

Wednesday, January 09, 2013

DISC Training - First Session

We had a great first session of the DISC workshop tonight. We had a full house full of great people!! Thank you to all those who came. Looking forward to the next few sessions.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Merry Christmas from Matt & Lindsay

Merry Christmas to all our friends and family around the world!! We are so thankful for each of you. Enjoy our special dance moves. Haha. :) We love you!!

Friday, December 21, 2012

DISC Training with Jason Hedge & Lindsay Coil

Here is your chance to finally learn what everyone is talking about! What is a High I? Am I one? Is that good? Why?

In order to understand your relationships with other people, you must first understand yourself. Achievers throughout history have one thing in common—they know themselves. This means they don’t underestimate what they can do, they don’t sell themselves short and they know their own limitations. More importantly, by understanding what makes them unique, they are able to develop plans to overcome their shortcomings and take full advantage of their strengths to improve their communication and effectiveness with others. 

During this 4 session workshop, you will learn to:
  • Uncover the behaviors that God established inside of you.
  • Identify why you do what you do and why others do things completely differently.
  • Reveal the value that different styles carry.
  • Improve communication.
Through the generosity of TTI, the $95 cost has been reduced to $35 for all other attendees. Cost includes the "Comprehensive DISC Assessment for the Workplace" with a detailed and comprehensive report.  

Space is limited with 140 spots available. Small teams are welcome. 

Please click here to register and for more information. 

Who are the presenters?
Note: You also have the opportunity to purchase an updated version of The Essential DISC Training Workbook at a discounted price. Once your interest is piqued, you will want to take additional time to complete the remaining sections of the workbook to increase your learning and ability to apply this new wealth of information. However, it is not required as we will provide print outs to help you successfully navigate through the report and enjoy the workshop.

Saturday, November 03, 2012

Philippines 2012

There are great things happening in my home country. Matt and I have been going there with Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry (or BSSM) for 3 years and we are gaining momentum. God is so good!

One of our main hosts in the Philippines (Church So Blessed) made this 12-minute video of a few things that we did in Manila this last March. We had about 42 people in our team from BSSM. Enjoy!

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Celebrating Five Years!

Once in a while in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale

Happy 5th Anniversary
February 17, 2006